Nothing Close to a Perfect Man - Hoi's Type

*note: this is a response to Esther's blog on Myspace

"So.... what do you think ladies? What's your type of guy?" - Esther

I like the type of guy who can be as open-minded as me or at least considerate of other ideas because I think if he was anymore open-minded as me...he would be gay, semi-gay, or oddly obscure in the mind. I definitely do NOT want a "party-hard till I drop" type of guy but I would like someone who is outgoing enough to be able to converse with someone properly and even provoke someone's mind. A thinker and/or a conversationalist. I would also like for him to know when to be down to earth and relax too because having your mind reel over a topic for too long is not good at all. With me, I don't like to be wrong but I would rather have the truth and be proven wrong than to be lied and misled. I like being the one who is more logical and wise however sometimes I don't mind being the one in the wrong and have to be reminded to be sensible. Logical, sensible, honest, wise. I would like for him to be romantic but he doesn't have to be in order to sweep me off my feet. All he has to be is thoughtful or sweet. He doesn't always have to be 24/7 spontaneous but I'd like it if he could change things up from the daily schedule every so often.

I definitely want a health & hygiene-conscious man I don't like the fact I'm narrow-minded based on physical appearances but I don't want a greasy, unclean, mess of testosterone. That's not attractive what-so-ever. I don't want, in any way, for him to be OVERLY health&hygiene conscious guy. Seriously, how are you supposed to enjoy some of the natural and pleasurable points in life (such as desserts and running through nature)?

Oh boy, do I want a gentleman and at LEAST know the basics of that kind of etiquette as well as mannerly. I will not tolerate mistreatment of me especially if I do not know them on a deep, personal level. Such as verbal or physical abuse. I don't mind if he farts here and there, or burps loudly sometimes or even laughs really loud about a joke. At certain points in time, it's appropriate...in my opinion. I do that stuff too. Unladylike, right? I'm okay with cursing to a degree but I don't want that guy shooting the f-bomb everywhere. I don't want any "gangster" either. I don't want some guy to be slurring every other words and mixing them with others and have their pants practically hang around their ankles. WEAR YOUR DAMN PANTS RIGHT. It's gross and I do NOT want to see the crease of your ass. I don't need a guy repping a sign in every picture or at all. If it's part of the family or whatever keep it in the family.

I like a guy who can stand up for me or is slightly over-protective. I don't mind if he gets jealous sometimes. Appropriately enough. It's cute and I like a guy who doesn't mind showing how much he treasures his girlfriend.

I don't know if I'm going to get super detailed, because I'm already pretty detailed so far. It takes a little common sense for one trait to lead to something else. Perhaps there will be another blog about the way guys dress.


What's your type of guy, Ladies?

Misinterpretation of the Human Language

" mis⋅in⋅ter⋅pret

 /ˌmɪsɪnˈtɜrprɪt/ Show Spelled Pronunciatio[mis-in-tur-prit] Show IPA
–verb (used with object), verb (used without object) to interpret, explain, or understand incorrectly. " (from dictionary.com)

I might be a victim of this....

No, scratch that - I am but I know that I am not the only one. People misinterpret other people's statements other times all the time and there are plenty of factors. Perhaps that person was talking to another and you just so happen to land right in front of them. That happens more often than one thinks. Or there is a personal view on a definition of a word. After that point someone may take it the wrong way, a misunderstanding takes place, which may lead to an argument. However, that's only one plausible scene because I am an argumentative person when it comes to opinions about emotions especially if it involves MY emotions or people I know. It must be the same with others, right?

Another situation where misinterpretation is common is when two people strike a conversation when they speak different languages. Yes, one might think: "Why would two people who speak two totally different languages manage to cross paths and try to converse?" Yet again, it is more common than one would think. Especially, if you're in an environment where you have to speak with others who aren't very well acquainted with your language (such as a job you currently have, speaking to an elder who speaks barely any English, whatever, etc.)

Other example(s): There are two people who are in a relationship. He/she decides it's funny, whether they recall it had any relevance to any past conversations or not, and states it to the other. For some reason, he/she misinterprets this as a personal joke because it does have something to do with a past conversation or scratches something that has been bothering them (whether that person remembers or not).

I'm not 100% sure if that made any difference to my blog but I do know that people have things buried within their memory that are only pulled up when a certain word, phrase, picture or even sound is emitted or brought up. Anyone may disagree with that but from experience I have found that to be very true.


*Note: I may or may not come back and continue this on another entry in the future if I feel the need to further explain or add on. :)